Parents often react on autopilot to their child’s misbehavior. These reactive moments are when we are at our parenting worst. When we get overwhelmed and angry at our kids, many of us find ourselves yelling — especially if a parent yelled and shouted to control the situation and dominate us when we were children. Research has shown that yelling makes children more aggressive physically and verbally. Yelling undermines our ability to successfully guide our children to more skillful choices. Hunter Clarke-Fields advocates for parents' self-care as well as positive approaches to parenting challenges. Host of the Mindful Mama podcast and creator of the Mindful Parenting online course, her writing has appeared in CNBC, NBC, HuffPost, Tiny Buddha, MOPS, Elephant Journal, Mothering and more.